Look before you leap

[Dawn]

Forget the Marmite.

Dawn please don't move on yet! Had a good chuckle as Clare's first post got on my tits too but thought better of commenting on such a crock of shite. So pleased you got that off your chest.

Actually you know what, I thought her first post was fine, as many have said there's nothing wrong in anyone expressing an honest opinion but the tone of that second post was just so damned smug, I really couldn't stomach her arrogance. People who deem their lifestyle to be a model to others are generally a little less humble than our Clare. I've been to Bath and it's a beautiful city but the class of people that live there (and I know thats probably a tad of a sweeping statement) are just the people that we want to get away from. Maybe NZ just wasn't upmarket enough for her, maybe in NZ she'd have been found out for the uncharitable imposter that she is as she wouldn't have been surrounded by a bunch of same-doing friends.

Maybe I'm just doing her an injustice and if that's the case then I apologise but she really should have been a little more careful in her writing. I remember from her first post that she said one of them is a teacher and if it's her, well, that takes me back to a post I wrote recently about teachers attitudes in UK schools. I wouldn't like to think that she was teaching my kids - jeez, parents evening would be interesting wouldn't it? :o

Hatter5, I'm not going anywhere except to put the kettle on ;)

[hatter5]

When I read the first post I had the feeling she was just being circumvent about the subjects that she went on to elaborate with her own dogma second time around.

Spent ages deleting a lot of my post so it doesn't come across they way I intended as I didn't want to be perceived as having a go at teachers in general. I was pleased that you highlighted what others must have already thought.

If you have a perfect life why would you want to live anywhere else in th first place?

Anyway.

Don't mind the marmite here not quite the same but ok


MB

Been in Welly for eight months and we enjoy the choice of beaches within a half hour drive. The weather is not the best when the wind is up and the mist rolls in.

I get to spend a lot of time with my two children now and they have "re-bonded" with me. About two months after arriving my 6 year old son came into our room early one morning and climbed into bed and kissed me telling me he really,really loved me. Touched, I asked didn't he love me before and he said no! realising what he'd said he added that he did love me before but now he loved me as his friend because I spent so much time with him and I wasn't always at work. Did I blub....

Tough at times when you miss loved ones and for some bizarre reason I miss my old local Chinese Take Away and Curry house.

I watched some comedy program last week (love soup??) and one of the main characters lives in Brighton and commutes into the City. One of the scenes was shot on a Thameslink Train and just seeing the pattern of the seat's upholstery again made my stomach churn. The years of being squashed into those carridges flashed by.

The thought of going back to the UK makes my stomach churn in the same way.

I'll just have to get on with NZ and all it's good and bad points.

[LilAmy]

Hatter5 just read your post about your 6yr old son. Thats lovely that he said that and the reasoning behind it. Must have mad your day! :)

[MotherBear]

I get to spend a lot of time with my two children now and they have "re-bonded" with me. About two months after arriving my 6 year old son came into our room early one morning and climbed into bed and kissed me telling me he really,really loved me. Touched, I asked didn't he love me before and he said no! realising what he'd said he added that he did love me before but now he loved me as his friend because I spent so much time with him and I wasn't always at work. Did I blub....

Could quite easily blub along with you Hatter but in a nice way. ?What a wonderful moment that must have been and makes the whole thing worthwhile, no matter what else is going on around you. ?

[selchie]

What a flurry of conversation here, and I just turned my back for a week or two. I had to reread the entire thread to figure out what I missed that would get such a rise out of Dawn et al. Clare does get rather sour-grapey about how NZ is promoted versus what she experienced, but I don't think she was trying to insult anyone or their reasons for wanting to go to NZ. It may have been that she just wasn't expressing herself clearly. It's too bad that she performed a bit of "hit-and-run" rather than stick around and clarify her observations.

I suspect that she was hoping to remind people that NZ does have some problems which we might not be thinking about. I think that is useful, so that we can weigh as many factors as we can before making such a big decision. Her reasons for preferring the UK are her own, and I doubt she was questioning the rationality of the rest of us. Considering her children didn't want to live in NZ, and assuming that she wants to keep close to them, I think it's a valid point in favor of her remaining in the UK.