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Originally Posted by MotherBear
Here you are, Lara, a little insight into dating in NZ  .
'The dating scene is different here. In England, you can know quite quickly whether a woman is interested in you by the way she looks at you. Most English women can smile with their eyes, but not Kiwis. It took me a while to get used to, because on one hand Kiwis are open and friendly, but that doesn't mean they have any interest in you. Kiwis operate on a code I don't understand. You can be sitting there thinking, oh well, nice to meet you, but then she's jumping you.
"Kiwi men don't seem to look for any particular cues, they just tend to dive in and if they get told to f**k off, they do. There's not much subtlety.
"In England, it's seen as polite to accept a drink and rude to refuse, whereas Kiwi girls will refuse a drink. Accepting a drink is almost seen as entering a contract: it says you're on your way to something. "Kiwi women are much more blokey in their approach to relationships. Here, you might see a woman a couple of times then she stops returning your calls. In England, most women will say something like, I don't think we have anything in common.'
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Good luck to you, I say.  |
You know, I've seen this article before, and, well, the language I want to use to describe this man is not appropriate for this board.
I simply cannot believe he was okay with having his name and photograph attached to such condescending, arrogant and downright nasty nonsense.
I do think - it's the same in Australia - that compared to the UK women in this part of the world are a lot more 'equal' with men when it comes to dating. I lived in London for a number of years and I always found it strange that any time I tried to have a conversation with a man he seemed to think it was an invitation for sex.
I also found it strange that I would be at the pub with a few Australian friends (female) and some English guys, and the only time we saw their girlfriends was when they came to pick them up and take them home.
I think what this guy doesn't get is that down here at the end of the world we don't bother much with all the male/female games. I think that openness people are happy to discover when they move to New Zealand is something that extends to all situations - in bars and cafes, for example. Women here would die if they realised people from the UK expected that casual conversations were an invitation for something much more.
They're different cultures, and both are fine. But this moron making sweeping generalisations about the entire female population of a country (about their appearance in particular) is downright wrong. That's the kind of attitude that makes you want to tell someone to go back where they came from.
28-05-2008, 02:36 AM
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