I'm no dating expert, but I met my partner on an on-line dating site (here in the US). That may not be for you, but it is a way to "see what's out there". People put it down a lot, but honestly, you can eliminate a lot of less desirables before having to meet them face to face. Here in the US, there is a site one can access -
Meetup: World's largest community of local Meetups, clubs and groups! - Meetup.com, and there may be similiar sites world wide, but what this is, is people who have an interest - let's say, Golden Retrievers - and other people who have the same interest, join in and eventually they get together, maybe to have a play date at a dog park with their Goldens or whatever. I know I have seen things like dinner groups and people who are interested in all kinds of things on this site.
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New Zealand embassy in Washington now has all my paperwork as of June 4,2008. Now, just more waiting.....and waiting.....and waiting
June 30, 2008 - embassy received additional information requested
July 17, 2008 - email received and WORK PERMIT APPROVED!!!!!
Flights booked for August 4, 2008!
Arrived in Auckland on August 6, 2008. Eventually will be settled around Hamilton.