Howdy, and welcome!
Where in Turkey do you guys live? I'm in the USAF currently in Incirlik, near Adana. Anyway, I would be very carefull with the military service for Turkey. I have heard that some turkish political figure was serving in the US, and his son had not yet completed his military service. the turkish officials pretty much made him come back and do his time! wether thats true or not, i think that would be a point worth researching.
at any rate, good luck
im sure the other members who have actually made the move will have more insight into the rest of your questions!!
Carl