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Originally Posted by nickydwuk
Is it possible for you to put your NZ plans on hold for a couple of years just to help & support your mum? This might help all parties.
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Depending on how desperate Shell is to get to NZ and start her new life, I wonder if delaying her departure might only serve to put off the pain and cause other negative feelings along the way. Shell would be caught in a trap where she can't get on with her life in the way she would like and her mum might always be wondering when the subject of NZ will crop up again. It could cause tensions and resentments under the surface. Would it be better to bite the bullet now and work around the problems?
Shell, is your mum computer savvy? Would she be able to use the likes of MSN/Yahoo messenger to keep in touch on a daily basis? Perhaps if you set her up with a webcam she could see you, too. I find it makes such a big difference when families are apart to be able to communicate in real time and your mum wouldn't feel quite so distanced from you if you can share your daily news with her.
Just my take.
