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Originally Posted by pianist1
If I were an American trying to decide about moving to NZ, I would want as many viewpoints as possible from other Americans. A good choice is an informed choice. What is the point of having a forum when only good things can be mentioned and you would be shot down if you had a different opinion? As I have mentioned previously in one of my other posts, the world is made of people with different experiences and opinions. Everybody has a right to feel the way they do, so please let's all be civil and respect everyone's differences. We can all learn from each other on this forum!
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Of course everyone has a right to their feelings, thoughts and opinions no one worth their salt would want it any other way. I celebrate and champion difference and equality and anyone who has actually come to know me as a person and not just through my posts on this forum will vouch for that. We must all also remember that posting something on the forum means that we take responsibility for it and are prepared to deal with any comments, thoughts or less than favourable opinions that are posted back. The rough with the smooth and that's the way it goes. I like it when people disagree with me, I respect and applaud difference and I respect and applaud people who are honest enough to vocalise it. If someone says something that I disagree with and I feel moved to reply then I should. Nolasmom felt moved enough to write the post in the first place and that's great. Anyone that her post informs and advises is better off for it and that's great too. That I disagree with some of the things she said should also be great. I have no objection to her venting her frustrations on how she finds life here compared to the US and if it's cathartic all the better but she made a few comparisons that weren't accurate and that were open to attracting criticism and that too is healthy isn't it? If you're bold enough to state a thing then your bold enough to deal with any questioning of it surely.
I know that this forum has worked hard on allowing people to post their honest opinions. It's never encouraged only good things to be said. I respect the fact there are many varying opinions on here, they helped me make that informed decision you mentioned. But I also think that informed decisions aren't necessarily the best decisions, but hey I often throw caution to the wind and welcome the consequences. I've learned a lot that way.
What you say about your husband is interesting because the other night when Gary and I were talking he said exactly the opposite. Gary is very cautious and he also stresses over a lot of unnecessary things, he gets anxious. He said that since being here he has never felt so free
that is such a profound change in him that it brought tears to my eyes. We would have left the UK 3 years ago if Gary had been willing and now he says he wishes we had. Hindsight eh?
Guys, listen. I know I'm outspoken, I'm abrupt and to some, maybe all who have never met me, I may come across as difficult, provocative, argumentative, brash....and on and on......but really I'm just a pussy cat.......aren't I taf?
