[nickydwuk]

I recently posted a thread saying how happy I was. Now OH has really put a spanner in the works and I am really p****d off with him. A few weeks ago after many months of dithering he finally decided that this is what we both wanted and he was all for the big move. Planning where we would live, what job he could do, what car to get ? you name it he thought about it. We got the house valued and it came out at the same or above what we had budgeted for so everything was rosy. Then this weekend I mentioned about submitting our EOI and he told me he wasn?t ready to go.

The reasons he cited were: he would miss our eldest son ? who has not lived at home for 3 years and has said himself he will be moving out of the area with a possibility of moving abroad, he would miss going to the pub on Sundays with his Dad, now we both had good jobs and he has some money in his wallet, he would miss his parents ? he wants to be there for them like they have been for him, and the final one he is scared of the upheaval of moving ? he wouldn?t even be able to cope with moving to the other side of town let alone the other side of the world. He also mentioned how he would not know anyone yet two weeks ago he was happy to live in the country with our 2 boys, the dogs and me for company.

He said he has been thinking like this for a while but daren?t say anything in case it upset me. He also told me I could go on my own ? tempting ? and that he may change his mind in a few years ? what will change? His parents will need him more, none of the children will be young enough to come with us, and he will be more comfortable and set in his ways than now. I can see my dream ending all because he is too scared of a challenge and making a new start. It is so easy to settle for what you know rather than taking a chance ? I ?m surprised he even plucked up the courage to propose.