thanks again for the advice
we are going for the work visa not the work permit as my husband has not got a job offer. under the work visa requirements, it doesnt appear that he needs a job offer at this stage. (as far as i can see anyhow)
also
how do we "prove" a stable and genuiene relationship?
i am confussed, how do you show a stranger at nzis that you love someone?

thanks
rayns
