There are certain aspects of my old home that I occassionally miss, but for the most part I would say no, I don't really miss it that much. I came from Silicon Valley, where I had lived since 1979. It has become so polluted, crowded, ugly and uptight that I really started to hate it there. Sure, the shopping is better there, but there's a lot more to life than good shopping.
The move was way, way more work than I originally anticipated. I've moved 20 or more times in my life, so I thought I had some idea what to expect. But moving overseas is just entirely different. Plus my family and I are pack-rats, so we had (ok, still have) much more junk than most. It would be different if I was in my early twenties, when everything I owned would fit inside a VW bug.
One of the biggest stresses for the move was deciding what to take and what to leave behind (give away or sell). We are very attached to our stuff, so making those kinds of decisions in rapid-fire mode, and for a period that extended into many months, was not fun. What's worse is that the process isn't over yet.... Having to sell our house -- a custom home that we designed and built in 1996 -- was also unpleasant for me. I really liked that house, and had built it with the idea in mind of never moving.
I do miss being able to see my family. Especially my sister and her two kids. We didn't see each that often, but we never went more than 6 or 9 months between visits. I'm still hopeful that she'll be able to come visit me. Fortunately, I set up very low-cost way to call the US from NZ, so we're able to keep in touch by phone and email.
Yes, I would say that I've changed since moving. My priorities in life are different now. I make time for the things that are really important to me, rather than being completely focused on work (which is the Silicon Valley Way). I spend time every day enjoying the beauty of the area, sometimes sitting for hours just looking out the window. I'm much more relaxed and happy than I was before the move.
In typical Silicon Valley style, I had originally planned to spend most of my time working on a bunch of fun computer-based projects. It seemed like that would be an enjoyable way to live my life. After getting here, that part of my life just doesn't seem important any more. My interests are moving in different directions that I never anticipated before moving.
Yes, the experience has been very positive so far. Difficult and stressful in stretches, but positive and well worth the effort. It's given me a different perspective on both life in general, and also life in the US (what a bunch of messed-up folks we are).
It's difficult to fully anticipate what the culture will be like, so yes, it's different than what I expected. I'm still in the process of fully figuring it out. Although I love the people here, I've found it to be difficult to make new friends (any ideas you might have on good places to meet people would be welcome). Most of my surprises have been on the positive side, though. I think my core values are much more in line with a typical Kiwi than they are with a typical American.
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