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Originally Posted by zummerzet_lou
I feel awful - yes, but then I can't stop living my life because of her can I? Or should I?
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Aaaww Lou
At the end of the day you have to consider what's best and right for your family. It's not just you and her, it's everyone else that's involved in this as well. Consider, for a moment, if your lives would be richer for staying in the UK with her. True, you might feel better because you don't feel guilty about leaving her anymore, but would you then feel guilty about denying your family the chance of a new and exciting life in NZ? You're in a no-win situation, therefore, you might as well go with what you really want to do, as someone will get hurt whichever choice you make.
She's just laying a guilt trip on you and it seems she's on the verge of winning. Do what
you feel is right, not what someone else thinks you should do because it suits her better. It's not like you're leaving her with no one, as you've already said you have a 'more favoured' sister. I understand it's hard for her to see you go, but that's what life and growing up is all about. We all go our separate ways in one form or another. It just happens that your 'way' is a bit further than most.
Lou you sound like a great daughter (better than she deserves) because you're taking her feelings on board, but you also need to be a great wife and mother. Your mother should be big enough and fair enough to swallow her hurt, let you go and wish you well in your venture. The fact that she isn't prepared to do this is proof enough that she only has her own interests in mind.
Look out for yourself for a change. It's time for you to come of age.
