Leaving older children behind
When we move next September we will be bringing our 2 younger boys with us but our eldest son and daughter will be too old to come with us (he will be 20 and she will be 19). My son moved out from the family home over 3 years ago and is quite independant and my daughter will be starting her second year at university. They have both said they will follow us out whne we can sponser them although my daughter is training to be a teacher so could probably come over inher own right.
The initial move and leaving them here is not a problem. But recently I have been thinking about the situation and my FIL out it into words yesterday. What if they decide to stay in the UK and get married and have a family? I will have grandchildren that I will only ever know from pictures, webcams and birthday & Christmas cards. Even if we get to visit occasionally it will not be the same.
Has anyone else had this dilemma and how have you coped with it? This seems to be the only stumbling block for both of us now. 
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