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Originally Posted by LilAmy
Do tread carefully tho about things. We initially came out on a WHV and I told my folks we wouldnt be back and Stu told his we would be back in 2yrs and now we're going back in July to break the news to his folks that we are in the process of applying for PR!! Stu's Mum has really held onto that 'we'll be back in 2yrs' sentence and we are dreading telling her. So do be careful when setting expectations to people.
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Good point LilAmy. There's a fine line between saying things to those you are leaving behind to make them feel better, and giving them false hope. Best to be honest, but firm. You can tell them that you are 'going to give it a try' - that is, after all, what you will be doing as there are no guarantees it will work out - but also let them know that, if it does work out, you will be be staying permanently.
(Ironically, whilst my father actively encouraged me to go, since we've been here I think I've only spoken to him about 4 times on the phone in 2 1/2 years (ya think he was trying to get rid of me?
). However, I speak to my mum regularly and surprisingly, given that she was against me going, we are probably closer than ever.)
It'll be ok Bermy Girl - just keep it real, be honest and firm, whilst all the while respecting their feelings of 'loss' too.