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Old 23-05-2007, 09:00 AM
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It isn't going to be easy.
I warned my family in advance what our intentions were. Mother stropped because
a) I hadn't told her in the way she wanted to be told
b) The inlaws knew before her (for practical reasons we had had to tell them before)
c) I obviously wasn't thinking about her and the effect it would have on her

Do you see the common thread here? She was just concerned about herself not about us in the slightest.

After I told her, I tried to get her interested, tried to show her the sort of house we could afford, the beauty of the land, the wonderful life etc, but she wasn't interested. Eventually things turned to argments, nothing I could do was right, and in the end I left the UK without even visiting them and just before we left she sent a "sod off we never want to hear from you again" card.

It all boiled down to her realising she couldn't control me.

You probably have a better relationship with your family, but they are thinking about what is good for them, not what is good for you.

I would say don't go out of your way to mention things to her, but don't hide them either, just clearly and calmly stick to your plans and keep moving forward with them.
Perhaps prepare a folder of stuff you have printed from the web - photos, crime statistics, literacy statistics, possible houses you can afford etc etc ie all the reasons you are going and comparisons to the place you are leaving. Then nearer the time give it to her and ask her to read it and think about it.
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