Hi Everyone!
I'm dealing with a lot of family resistance to my desire to move to NZ with my son. I am no longer sure how to deal with it. Has anyone else had to deal with this and had a peaceable outcome?
My Mum is not open to the idea at all. The last time we discussed...last November...she burst into tears and hung up on me and wouldn't speak to me for two weeks. Needless to say I haven't mentioned it to her since. My brother has now joined the band wagon and won't support me moving either. They are insisting that I should think about my son and him not growing up with them and that that should be my priority. The thing is, my son is my priority and that's one of the major reasons why I am looking at moving to NZ. Bermuda has a current illiteracy rate of 19%, which is crazy for the second wealthiest country in the world, the only option here is private school if you don't want your kids to be complete bumbling idiots and that's over US$15K a year, which for a single mum is unaffordable. Also, I would like my son to have the opportunities of playing sports and going to university (there is no university in Bermuda).
Anyway, can anyone help? I'm not sure how to bring this topic up again with my mum, but as the move gets closer...aiming for July 2008...and Shellbda and I have put an offer in on a house...I feel I need to talk to her about it again, but I dread the guilt trips! I understand that she doesn't want us to go because she will miss us, but I can't understand why my family can't also support me in my dreams at the same time.
I have dreamt of living in NZ for years now and I am finally doing something about it, but I don't want the whole experience to be spoilt by the stress from my family.
