Way to go, nattydread!
Whilst we all try to be supportive, understanding, sensitive to the poster's conclusions and opinion of NZ, then give advice and our individual perspectives of the problems brought up, ducking the missiles ... you see the "nail" and hit it firmly on the head! So refreshing.
Dawn, I support you too. What you have said makes complete sense, and I understand fully what you say about 'life forces' etc. affecting how one lives. You have put your arguments forward clearly and with empathy. We're with you too!