[saraian]

Hi Wilson

Seems like you had a really rough time and it must be so very frustrating for you. More so when you got the run around, as much as you did, from all the different people.

I'm really sorry that it didn't work out for you.

I have to say though, that whether you are young free and single, or with a family makes no difference. If you have the money to support yourself for a set period of time, with or without a job you should be ok. I think it's wise to make sure you can live for a given period of time after your arrival.

The kiwi's are well know for their laid back attitude, although in your case Wilson it was a little more than this, i'm sure. Yet it has to be said that our own country has all the incompetencies that you highlight in your mail. It took me over 8 weeks to get a wage in this country because of various cockups!

The main point I'm trying to make, is not to have such high expectations. You still have to work and encounter the daily problems and incompetencies of things beyond your control. You will still have financial worries, you still live your daily up and down life, wherever in the world you live. But whether you are on your own or a family with young children, is irrelevant to me. I want my kids to have a spirit of adventure. How many children are lucky enough to get the oppotunity for the life that most of us are embarking on?

Life is an adventure, NOT to be wasted. If it all goes belly up, a least you had a go and you can get on the plane and start again. Yes you could lose money, that's because life is a gamble, but this gamble is one worth taken. I think so anyway!!