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Thanks tbh part of me would like to tell them where to shove it when we go and make the break complete and final, but family is family and besides I would never know the truth. Mother always swore that she loved us both equally (despite treating us completely differently which she always denied that she did) and when they died everything would be split down the middle. I know it is many years off yet, but I don't want to tell them where to go as I would never know if she was true to her word or not. I have a feeling big brother will end up with the lot whatever happens, but at least I will have the answer that I need. If I tell em to get lost I will never know.
No it is not about the money, I am not that mercenary, I just want to know the answer.

Tbh these days I am sad at the situation, but resigned to it. The inlaws more than make up for them, they are wonderful.

Glenda - despite your problems you still have a heart to reach out to others - that is lovely. I hope you get the house sold. I am surprised that he can stop the sale, I would have thought that you would have been able to sell it and then negotiate afterwards about what if any money he is entitled to.

That and I would tell him bluntly if you remain in the UK he will never see the grandkids again, if you go, he can come and visit.