Hey Glenda,
Sorry to hear about your circumstances. It may be that time softens his attitude a bit, but until then, it'll be his loss. You can understand to some extent, a negative reaction from people when you drop the bombshell that you are emirating to NZ- after all, they have everything to lose and nothing to gain, whereas although you will obviously miss your family, you have this whole new exciting life to start in a beautiful country - I reckon it's harder for those left behind sometimes.

Whatever happens, don't give up. If in any doubt, remember the whole reason you are doing this - for a better life for your family. And if the worst comes to the worst, and you can't settle successfully over here, or if living here is not worth missing your family, then you can always go back! At least you will have seen both sides of the coin - better than not coming in the first place, and forever wondering 'what if.....'

Anyway, I really hope things work themselves out. Keep your chin up!