You folks are sooooooo lucky. My situation is so bad I do not really want to post ... but here goes.

My mum and dad are sad but fine with the move. They have lived in NZ themselves and know it to be a good move for us and the kids. They would ideally like to come out again themselves when we have gained citizenship.

My MIL is sad but fine with the move. My FIL (who is divorced) is not and the hell he has been giving us cannot be imagined. He has taken our move as a personal rejection and has not spoken to us since we told him last October. Every time we try to speak he has turned away. Furthermore, he has been going around telling everyone how wicked we are to him, how wicked we are to our children and that we have robbed him. He has stopped us selling the house as he wants a share of it as he legally passed on his own inheritance to my husband in 1984. We don't know what to do with him and I don't think his solicitor does either. He is trying everything to stop us emigrating and taking 'his children' as he calls our kids.

The stupid thing is that hubby was going to make regular trips back to the UK, take him to NZ on holiday, and even give him some financial security to help with bills etc. Now we can't wait to get away.

Just cannot discuss it anymore, but as you can see things can go wrong though I am sure our situation is very uncommon.